Last July, I wrote “Quickies,” 10 questions answered in 25 words or less. The short answer format seemed to resonate with a lot of folks. In the seven months since then, I’ve collected a new group of questions that are important while only requiring a quick reply. I decided to do it again! All of these were submitted anonymously at live Ask The Sexpert events around the city in the last year or so. Many of them have been asked repeatedly, which makes me believe that a lot of people have the same questions. If you’ve got questions about sexual health, sexual pleasure, gender, identity or relationships, stop in to the Tool Shed and talk to our staff educators. You can also send them to firstname.lastname@example.org to be answered here at Milwaukee Record. We’d love to help you out if we can.
Q: What’s with the idea that women need to pee after sex?
A: During vaginal penetration, bacteria get pushed into the urethra, where they can potentially cause infection. Promptly peeing flushes them out before they can cause problems.
Q: Do gingers have ginger pubes?
A: Often, but not always.
Q: What is the maximum number of fingers that can fit in the human butthole?
A: In the movie I saw, it was 10—probably because the guy ran out after that. Most people are comfortable with one, two or three.
Q: Can straight people have casual sex with people of the same gender (and still be straight)?
Q: What about vegetables?
A: Clean, trimmed veggies are typically considered safe for vaginal play. Buy organic when possible and use condoms when it’s not.
Q: What’s the best way to introduce anal to someone who’s never tried it?
A: With your words. Seriously. Lots and lots of talking. If your partner consents, lots and lots of lube. And go slowly!
Q: Can olive oil safely be used as lube?
A: Cooking oils are typically safe for stroking a penis and unprotected anal sex. Keep oils away from condoms and vaginas.
Q: What’s the difference between a vibrator and a dildo?
A: The main purpose of a vibrator is to vibrate. The main purpose of a dildo is to penetrate. There’s a little crossover between products.
Q: What’s the best way to dispose of used condoms in a carry-in/carry-out camping situation?
A: If you have the foresight to bring condoms, you should be able to grab a sandwich bag to stow them away until you get back.
Q: How do you clean up lube?
A: Hot water and soap will clean lube off toys/fingers. Warm water and a washcloth will clean genitals. Silicone lube feels slippery, even after cleaning.
Curious about cunnilingus? Anxious about anal? Do you have questions about queefs or problems with your prostate? Lucky Tomaszek is the education coordinator at The Tool Shed: An Erotic Boutique, Milwaukee’s only mission-driven, education-focused sex toy store. Send her an email at email@example.com and she’ll get back to you with an answer.